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Jan 12

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New York
November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.

Love,

Fa

” John Steinbeck on Falling in Love: A 1958 Letter | Brain Pickings

Never suppress the desire to be in the “Wow” moment.

Wheee!

Dec 15

nevver:

Drunk Octopus wants to fight you

Ha!

nevver:

Sull a Day

Wow.

Harper - 503 days

Wow…503 days since Harper jumped onto the scene. I’m loving every minute of it. Yesterday, I raced home after a meeting with Judith to take Harper swimming in the pool at 220 Riverside. Ben and Jake were in the pool. Harper wore floaties until the lifeguard recommended that she adapt to the water without the aid of floaties around her arms.

After liberating her arms, we practiced going under water. The key is to help them anticipate going under water. We use the word “Submarine” and then we plop under for a second. Once we pop-up, the key is to look at Harper with a big smile and reassure her that going under is safe.

The first dunking was a success, then she slipped on the stairs and dunked herself. As Harper bobbed up to the surface, I grabbed her exclaiming “Submarine” over and over. Johnny on the spot. Harper looked a little flustered but made a quick recovery and resumed squealing. She’s taking to water like a baby hippo.

The plan is to make it home this evening early enough for us to have another swim adventure.

Nov 22

nevver:

The Sky Is Black, Can’t You Feel It?

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Sep 9

Harper - 427 days

Big day for little Harper. First official steps at 5:02pm. I was sitting in our bed working on my laptop when Melanie squealed with excitement from the living room. I jumped out of bed and raced to the living room to see Harper bursting with pride and joy. Although, she was sitting on the floor, one could tell that Harper was thrilled with her first steps.

I quickly repositioned Harper between my legs and pointed her towards Melanie. Perhaps other babies take one or two steps before they tumble into a heap. But to my utter amazement, Harper took five confident steps towards Melanie. I felt ebullient watching Harper and Melanie hug.

Not a bad day to start this account of my life with Harper. My goal is to capture a bit of each day with Harper. The high and the lows. But mostly, I plan to use this space to document our little adventures, Harper’s funny expressions and her boundless curiosity. I plan to add photos and other reminders of each day so one day, when my memory fails me, I can share the little details that build the foundation of our life.

Earlier in the day, Indie, Harper’s nanny watched her for a few hours. Around 12:30pm, after spending time in Riverside Park, Harper was so exhausted from her strenuous play, she went to sleep as I gave her a bottle. Later, after the first steps, I fed her dinner, gave her a bath, and put her to sleep while Melanie went to Yoga.

Tomorrow is going to be a wonderful day filled with tentative steps and lots of laughter. Why? This little girl seems to giggle every time she falls to the ground.

Jul 26

gtmcknight:

Just finished reading Priceless: The Myth of Fair Value (and How to Take Advantage of It). I started it back in February on my way to Norway, but I only seem to read books when I’m on planes (sans internet) so it took awhile.

I immediately ordered the book after reading the article on Balthazar’s menu and have to give it 4/4 stars. It has the most fascinating, un-intuitive lessons on pricing and anchoring. If you loved Freakonomics, you will love this!

The book blog hasn’t been updated in awhile but the post on magnum condoms is worth reading too.